Top 3 Signs You’re Neurodivergent (and Didn’t Know It) — And How the Right Therapist Can Help
/Ever had the thought: “Wait… what if this isn’t just anxiety?” More and more adults- especially women and folks socialized to fit in - are realizing they’ve been masking neurodivergent traits for years.
You don’t have to be “officially diagnosed” to start exploring what might be going on with symptoms of ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergent traits. Sometimes, just naming it helps everything make more sense.
Here are a few signs that might hit close to home:
1. You’re always thinking but rarely finishing.
Your brain is ON: ideas, plans, reminders, lists.
But the follow-through? Inconsistent at best.
You’ve got 12 tabs open, 4 half-read books, and a growing mountain of shame.
This isn’t laziness. It could be executive dysfunction — a common neurodivergent trait.
Therapy or even Executive Functioning Coaching can help you understand your rhythm and work with your brain, not against it.
2. Socializing = Performance mode.
You “rehearse” before conversations.
You replay them after. Endlessly.
Small talk feels exhausting. So does eye contact. So does pretending not to care.
You might’ve learned to mask, a survival tactic that hides your true self and burns you out.
The right therapist can help you unmask safely and explore what authentic connection actually feels like.
3. “Too sensitive” has followed you your whole life.
Sounds, textures, chaos? Overwhelming.
Criticism? Feels like a gut punch.
You’ve been called “too much” or told you’re “overreacting.”
You’re tuned in—and you were never taught how to work with that. Therapy can help you listen to your sensitivity as a source of wisdom, not a problem to fix.
So…Why Therapy Now?
A lot of people begin to notice or understand their neurodivergent traits in their 30s, 40s, or even later. You’ve been managing. Coping. Adapting. But maybe now you want to understand, not just push through.
The best therapy for neurodivergent adults would never try to make you “neurotypical.”
It will help you:
Unlearn shame.
Build systems that actually work for you.
Feel seen and connected
Still hesitating?
If “find a therapist who understands neurodivergence” has been gathering dust on your mental to-do list, maybe you’re not ready, and that’s okay. But if you need a nudge, take two minutes to set up a brief no pressure call with a psychologist who really understands all things neurodivergence. We’re ready when you are and your future self will thank you.