Dating, especially in New York City, is not for the faint of heart. This is one of the most discussed topics for our single clients. We caught up with Dr. Nadia Nieves for her advice on how to deal with some common dating concerns we hear from our clients.

Believe it or not, arguing can save your romantic relationship. Differences are inevitable in intimate relationships and conflict provides an opportunity to harness healthy aggression to clear the air and make space for growth. More relationships die by ice than by fire— meaning the bigger danger is disconnection, not conflict. However, not all arguments are created equal. Studies show that fights filled with contempt, stonewalling, criticism, and defensiveness erode relationships. Learning to fight well is key in lasting relationships.