There are moments when something shifts and suddenly you’re not in control.

Coping isn’t about fixing the situation. It’s about how you stay with yourself in the situation. You need ways to get through the moment and a place to make sense of what it brings up. Both approaches matter.

At Therapists of New York, we think about coping in both of these ways.

We offer structured support, like DBT skills groups, to help you manage intensity in the moment.

There’s a very specific kind of thought that tends to show up late at night, usually after a slightly off interaction at work: Is my boss toxic… or am I overreacting?

You replay the moment. The tone felt off. The feedback landed harder than it should have. The Slack message was short. Too short?

Now you’re distracted, mildly anxious, checking for follow-ups, thinking about it while brushing your teeth. And suddenly the question becomes less about your boss and more about you.

Why did that bother me so much?

Let’s slow this down. This isn’t just about your boss, and it’s not just about stress. This is about work stress, anxiety, burnout, and how high-pressure environments shape your reactions.

You can understand your patterns. You can know exactly where your anxiety, shutdown, or emotional reactions come from. You might even be able to explain your childhood in detail. And yet your body keeps reacting anyway.

If you have ever thought, “I get it, but I’m still stuck,” you are not alone. Many people seeking therapy in NYC reach this point after doing meaningful insight-oriented work. It does not mean therapy has failed. It often means the nervous system has not fully processed the experience yet.

This is where EMDR can help.

March 31 is World Bipolar Day, observed on Vincent van Gogh’s birthday. The day was created to increase awareness, reduce stigma, and promote education about Bipolar Disorder worldwide.

Most people think sports psychology is for professional athletes trying to shave seconds off their time or psych themselves up before big competitions. But the truth is, the same mental and emotional patterns that affect performance in sports also show up in work, relationships, parenting, and basically any situation where we care about doing well and not completely falling apart.

Pressure is pressure. And brains are remarkably consistent in how they respond to it.

So while sports psychology grew out of athletics, a lot of what it teaches us applies to everyday life in New York City, where even ordering coffee can feel oddly high stakes.

Parenting stress can feel heavier than usual. Work demands, school transitions, illness, overstimulation, or simply the pace of daily life can leave a parent’s nervous system already stretched thin. Perfect calm isn’t required to help settle a child. What matters most is noticing one’s own reactions and staying present enough to respond even when emotions are running high.

If you’ve been curious about joining a DBT Skills group, you’re not alone. Over the last decade, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) has become one of the most sought-after evidence-based treatments for people who want practical tools to manage emotions, improve relationships, and build a more grounded daily life. 

In this post, we’ll explore what DBT groups are, who they help, and how to know if joining one might be a meaningful next step for you.

Overstimulation isn’t just about sound or clutter. It’s when your body and mind hit their capacity for input, no matter how much you love the people around you. Learn more about the signs and what you can to do to address it.

EFT is an evidence-based, attachment-focused therapy that helps couples understand the patterns driving their conflict and reconnect through more vulnerable, safe, and responsive emotional conversations.

Most new parents expect some degree of exhaustion, feeding challenges, and emotional adjustment after bringing a baby home. What many don’t expect are sudden, unwanted thoughts or mental images, often about something bad happening to their baby.

Postpartum Rage: What It’s Trying to Tell You

Postpartum rage is a common and overlooked experience for new moms. Learn why it happens and how to cope with anger after having a baby.

Therapy Buzzwords: The Essential Guide for the Emotionally Curious

CBT? DBT? EMDR? Is this a therapist directory or the lineup at a music festival?

If your search history includes the phrase “what type of therapy is best for me” and you’ve abandoned more Psych Today tabs than unread newsletters in your inbox, this guide’s for you.

What It’s Like to Be in a Therapy Group in NYC: A First-Timer’s Guide

In New York City, it’s easy to be surrounded by people and still feel profoundly alone. Group therapy offers something rare in a fast-paced city—it offers a chance to slow down, speak honestly, and be seen. 

Psychological testing involves completing a series of tasks and answering questions designed to give insight into how you think, feel, and behave in various areas of your life. The specific tests you take are customized to meet your unique needs and questions, helping to create a holistic picture of your mental and emotional well-being.

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD, C-PTSD, Complex-PTSD) refers to the impact of prolonged, unavoidable, relational trauma. Such repeated trauma tends to negatively impact the survivor’s sense of safety, self-esteem, trust in self, and trust in others.

It is very common for people to have strong emotional reactions to perceived criticism. This is because criticism often triggers an underlying negative narrative or belief we hold about ourselves, which can provoke the experience of shame. When we receive criticism that touches on a negative belief we have about ourselves or something that we hold shame around, it can feel like that feedback is proving that there is something inherently wrong with us as a person, instead of serving as a piece of feedback about our performance. 

Many of us who tend to feel anxious in social situations, otherwise known as social anxiety, may lean on alcohol to help manage those feelings of anxiety when we do socialize. A few drinks can make us feel carefree and confident and this can make alcohol feel important to our enjoyment of socializing. However, the relationship between anxiety and alcohol might be more counterintuitive than it seems.

Roughly one in ten adults will have at least one panic, or ‘anxiety’ attack every year. Fortunately, panic attacks aren’t random. In fact, panic attacks are very predictable because they are triggered by internal or external cues of perceived threats.

Most people don’t look forward to fighting with their partner. Conflict with your partner can be painful. However, if done effectively,  it can also create positive change and help you and your partner learn more about each other. As a couples therapist, I consistently witness the power of increased understanding and compassion that comes from fighting.

Your child asks for water. You give your child some water. And suddenly the screaming starts…What is going on? The water could have the wrong temperature, could be in the wrong cup, your child may not like the way you handed them the water – who knows. The one thing that is clear is that your child is about to have a tantrum. Read on to learn what tantrums are, why they happen, how to deal with them, and better yet, how to prevent them.