You’re having an affair.

Your relationship may have been unhappy for years, or you may still love your partner and have no intention of leaving. You may have told yourself this would happen once, and now you’re checking your phone in the bathroom to see if they’ve texted or daydreaming about a getaway.

So, why are you doing this?

Understanding an affair means being willing to explore those questions. It also means recognizing that secrecy can cause harm, even when your feelings are real.

The best way to support someone going through infertility is to listen without trying to fix the situation, let them guide the conversation, and continue showing up even when you are unsure what to say.

Many people searching for ways to convince a partner, parent, or loved one to go to therapy are carrying a deeper question:

"What if they never do?"

In this post, we explore why pushing someone toward therapy rarely works, what tends to be more effective, and where the real work often begins.

Navigating a prenuptial agreement can be a challenging conversation for a couple. Yes, a prenup is a legal document — an insurance policy of sorts — but it's rarely just black and white. As a couples therapist, I've seen how even seemingly surface-level negotiations (who does the dishes? who keeps the house?) can carry hidden emotional meaning. Negotiating a prenuptial agreement is no different. 

You’ve probably seen the same two options over and over: 1) Couples therapy, and 2) Divorce mediation. But there’s a third option almost no one talks about: Discernment counseling. And if you’re on the fence about your relationship, it might actually be the best place to start.

There’s a reason so many of us love relationship podcasts. They let us eavesdrop on honest conversations about love, conflict, and connection- without having to schedule a session or say anything out loud. For some, podcasts are an easy way to reflect on their relationship; for others, they’re a lifeline during the “roommate phase,” when the spark has dimmed but the care is still there.

EFT is an evidence-based, attachment-focused therapy that helps couples understand the patterns driving their conflict and reconnect through more vulnerable, safe, and responsive emotional conversations.

Marriage is a huge commitment—and an emotional milestone that brings with it both excitement and uncertainty. Premarital counseling gives couples the tools to navigate this transition with clarity, connection, and intention.

In today’s world, more couples than ever are building meaningful relationships across lines of race, culture, and identity. These relationships are often filled with richness, depth, and strength—but they can also come with challenges that others may not fully understand.

Learn how therapy supports neurodiverse couples in building stronger communication, routines, and connection in their relationships.

It’s not a courtroom. It’s not a trap. It’s not a last-ditch fix. It’s a place where conflict becomes conversation, where silence becomes signal, where avoidance becomes insight. It’s a space to learn how to repair, not just retreat.

You don’t need to be on the verge of breaking up to go to couples therapy. In fact, the earlier you go, the easier it is to get back on track. But how do you know when it’s time?

Let’s be honest—most of us don’t wake up one day and say, “You know what would really help us right now? A stranger with a doctoral degree listening to our fights.” We usually wait. We tell ourselves it’s just a rough patch. We hang out with Google at 1 am, asking things like "how to stop arguing about mental load” or “why doesn’t my partner initiate sex anymore?”

Explore 5 expert-recommended relationship books that can help improve communication, intimacy, and emotional connection—like couples therapy, but DIY.

So, your relationship could use... a little tune-up. Maybe you’ve been arguing about the same handful of things for five years. Maybe one of you thinks “quality time” means doom scrolling on two separate couches. Maybe you just want to feel like you're on the same team again, not opposing legal counsel.

A Psychodynamic Take on Codependency, With a Wink and a Quiz

Somewhere between "I'm just a really caring person" and "I'm emotionally fused with my barista" lies the tender terrain of codependency. And while TikTok might call it a vibe, psychodynamic theory offers a deeper lens.

Feeling Uncertain About Your Relationship? Discernment Counseling Can Help.

Are you and your partner standing at a crossroads, unsure whether to stay together or part ways? Do you find yourselves asking, “Should we break up or give it one more try?”

Has one of you emotionally checked out, while the other is holding on?

If you’re in this space of uncertainty, Discernment Counseling might be the next step for you.

7 Tips For Staying Connected After Welcoming a Baby 

Becoming parents is a profound transition—one that reshapes your routines, priorities, and even your relationship. In fact, research shows that 67% of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction in the first few years of parenthood. Between sleepless nights, endless feedings, and the weight of new responsibilities, it’s easy for connection to take a backseat.

Becoming a parent is a monumental life shift, one filled with both anticipated adjustments and unexpected emotional twists. While new parents may brace themselves for the practical changes like disrupted sleep schedules and increased responsibilities, the whirlwind of emotions that accompany parenthood often still catch them off guard. This is where therapy can be particularly helpful in adjusting to your new role. 

Transitions can be challenging. They tend to stir up feelings of apprehension in children AND their parents. This is especially true when it involves a child's first experience with school or daycare. Parents often find themselves pondering whether their children will adapt smoothly, whether their kids will miss them, if they've made the right choices, and what might be missed or forgotten during the process.

As a parent, one of the most important things you’ll do is create a bond with your child. But have you ever wondered what makes a bond “secure” or how you can help ensure that your child develops a secure attachment? 

Most people don’t look forward to fighting with their partner. Conflict with your partner can be painful. However, if done effectively,  it can also create positive change and help you and your partner learn more about each other. As a couples therapist, I consistently witness the power of increased understanding and compassion that comes from fighting.